Malia Obama Safest Daughter at Lollapalooza

First Family at Yosemite National Park #regram @MichelleObamaAll weekend I have seen articles and social posts complaining that Malia Obama skipped the Democratic National Convention to go to Lollapalooza. “Doesn’t she take seriously her role as a First Daughter?” Never mind that her family has never wanted her or her sister to be forced into political roles. The President and First Lady have painstakingly worked to make sure that the First Daughters were, first and foremost, kids; free to grow and develop as naturally as one can living in a fishbowl. Case in point, Malia didn’t come to Chicago on her own, her mother came to Chicago to be with her. And though Michelle Obama did not follow her daughter to the festival, (that’s the Secret Services’ job), she was at home, available to her daughter should Malia need her. Because Michelle knows that while Lolla is a festival of music, it is also a festival of opportunity for people seeking to force others into compromising situations, particularly young women. But at 18, Malia was probably convinced she wouldn’t need her mother, regardless of the secret service protection, because that’s what most teenagers think. They believe they are invincible, whether they live in the White House or not. Thousands of teenage girls just like Malia were thinking the same thing as they breeched the festival grounds, “I can handle this”, despite what they know and talk openly about, the spiking of girls’ drinks at Lollapalooza.

Why is it not just expected, but in some ways accepted that young men will try and drug young women by spiking their drinks, lacing their food, or even jabbing a hypodermic needle into their skin at festivals like Lolla. Yes, these are all situations I have heard about directly from teens themselves. Kids talk openly about the dangers girls face at Lolla. Only they don’t refer to them as “dangers”, they refer to them as, “Ya know, stupid stuff. Just desperate guys trying to force a ‘hook-up’ or to ‘get with’ girls.” Ummm, I think you mean sexual assault?

Why aren’t there police reports concerning these young women who have had their drinks spiked with drugs. I have been searching the web trying to get numbers. Surely there are numbers. But the only numbers I find are those that speak to the “spike” in underage drinking. That’s why Lurie Children’s hospital adds staff to cover the Lolla weekend. But looking closer at the numbers I see that primarily the typical patient who shows up at the ER blitzed out of their minds is a teenage girl. White teenage girls form the suburbs to be exact. Now that may seem unremarkable. Teenage girls have less body mass and are affected by alcohol faster, and with smaller quantities, than boys. We all know that, right? But put your glasses on! Teenage girls are targets. Perhaps they willingly were “drinking”, but were they aware of what all was in their drink? Did someone add a little something-something for a kick. Or more like, a kickstart of a “hook up”. Uh, yeah. Only thing is such a “kick” is called a drug. And the “hook-up” wouldn’t be consensual, it would be rape. And all of that is immoral, reprehensible and, most importantly, ILLEGAL! But that’s not what is reported. No, what is reported is a “spike” in underage drinking, particularly teen girls. The lesson pedaled with such a glazed over report is that teen girls are more likely to exercise bad judgment and lack self control, thus feeding the beast known as “Rape Culture”.

It’s easy to spin a “girl blame“ narrative because these teens are often physically unable to counter the spin. Based on the descriptions of the state of these young women when they wind up in the ER they are not in a position to tell doctors or authorities that what has gotten them so sick was not what they did, but what was done to them. And when they do “come to” everyone is so wrapped up in condemning them about “drinking” they may feel that no one would believe them anyway, so why bother. Those are the girls that actually make it to the ER. So many aren’t. So many are going home, ashamed and guilt ridden, feeling responsible for their condition. The lucky ones that is, lucky because they get home with only a drug induced hangover to live through. Then there are the girls who wake up in strange places, missing clothes and the memory of their last few hours. What about them? Why don’t we hear about that “spike”? The reason we don’t hear about those “spikes” is because no one is reporting them. Reports aren’t being made because girls don’t want to face ridicule about drinking, even the ones who weren’t drinking in the first place but had their soda spiked, or their camelback dosed. They don’t tell. Who can blame them? Well, everyone. That’s kind of the problem. But there are well meaning parents too, who just want to see their child feel better. They aren’t indulging in blame. They encourage their daughter to heal their bodies and just, “put this whole thing behind you. It’ll be better in the morning”. But you see, it won’t. It won’t be better because in the morning the statistics will only speak to the “spike” in teenage girl underage drinking, instead of warning about the “spiking” of drinks that lead to a spike in sexual assaults, attempted and completed. Sure a hangover will pass, but the memories, the memories of not remembering, they will last forever.

So I say to you social complainers, don’t be mad the First Daughter went to Lollapalooza, be mad she was the only daughter safe there.

ML

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